Calling an Anti-Zionist Jewish Person a 'Self-hating Jew'...a Form of Ableism?

Is it just me, or is calling someone who is Jewish and anti-Zionist a 'self-hating Jew' actually a subtle form of ableism? Essentially what that person is saying is that any Jewish person who is not a Zionist has mental health problems and experiences low self-esteem issues for not wanting to ethnically cleanse Palestinians and steal their land, and that the only way to be psychologically sound is to be a Zionist. That is the very height of gaslighting, and I'd even go so far as to say it's ableist, as well. (Not that I'd ever want to be 'able' to be a Zionist, natch.)